Why do people refuse to own their choices? I guess what I am getting at is, how can anyone make a decision in life and then say someone else is at fault? Aren't we, as adults charged with being responsible for our own actions, both good or bad? And in being so, doesn't that in effect make us also the owner of those choices? If that is also true then how in the hell can anyone blatantly claim that anyone, much less someone that loves them and only wants the best for them, is ultimately responsible in the end?
The person in my life who has done this makes me what to slap them silly.....and make them realize how much pain they are causing to the other person......in life no one can make us happy, it has to come from us, others only add to what we allow ourselves to be. You have to be the maker of your own fate, take responsibility for your actions and stop blaming others for what you see as unfairness in your life.
Being a grown up is not all sunshine and rainbows, it's sometimes about looking at the big picture and realizing that life changes and so must we in order to be happy. We also have to consider that not everyone we love is going to always live up to our expectations of what we want for them, but it's their life, not ours to live and so we need to find a way to be happy for them, accepting that they are OWNING their choices without blame, so WHY CAN'T YOU?
I love you ~R~ keep your chin up, it will get better!